Being in a relationship is not always full of excitement; there will always come a time when it is confronted by circumstances to test if it is able to withstand the challenges. However, the situation is even made more difficult if the relationship itself becomes the test. What if the relationship is no longer healthy for you? What if it poisons your beliefs, self-respect and values?
The answer to this complexity is simple and the most rational individuals would always choose to save themselves. But then again, what if you are clueless that you’re in a toxic relationship?
Here are 7 signs you’re in one:
1. You become uncertain about many things: your feelings, your thoughts, how you should act and what you should say.
2. Physical and emotional distress becomes frequent. You start to be anxious, concerned and uneasy every time you are with the person.
3. Your feelings of uncertainty and confusion become common. You are no longer confident about the relationship; you start to question what’s in it for you and you don’t know which end is up when it comes to your relationship.
4. The relationship has become unconstructively capricious. You are always on your feet because you do not know what other erratic changes to expect from the relationship.
5. Hurtful conversations are being exchanged with each other. Unkind and insensitive words are being said to each other, no longer considering what the other person would feel.
6. The relationship has become physically abusive. This time, your partner literally hits, pushes and shrugs you off, or the other way around – something you have to be concerned about. White flag for this sign!
7. Unhealthy behaviors have unraveled since you are with the person. It could be drinking too much, overspending, becoming dishonest and other unhealthy behaviors.
All these signs should tell you that you are indeed in a toxic relationship. If you see these signs present, you need to open your mind and re-assess the relationship. Do not wait for the situation to get worse.
Here are 7 ways you can deal with a toxic relationship:
1. Take some time away from the person and from the relationship. Giving your time to yourself alone can help you re-evaluate the entire situation. When you are constantly in contact and communication with the person, you can clearly give a thought on what you need to do with the person and the relationship.
2. Assess your own actions and behavior. Take some time to do some internal assessment. Are you acting reasonably well to be treated well? Have you had behavioral problems that also need to be acted upon?
1. Make a decision. After you have taken some time to think about the entire situation, make a decision whether you still want to keep the relationship or not; being indecisive will not help solve the problem.
2. Think of ways that could help save the relationship if you believe it can still be saved. For as long as you not physically abusing each other, you might think that there are still ways you can save the relationship.
3. Preserve your self-worth and self-confidence. Facing a tough situation such as being in an unhealthy relationship may strip you of your self-worth and confidence believing you play a great role in the relationship’s failure. Take time to re-ignite the confidence and self-worth you had so you cannot simply give in to the stress and pressure.
1. Talk with your partner. Choose an appropriate time and place and choose the appropriate attitude and tone when deciding to speak with your partner. When you are able to speak your heart out, your partner might just cooperate the same way.
2. If the situation becomes unbearable; if you are emotionally and mentally disturbed making you inefficient at work, it is time you seek professional help.
Staying in an unhealthy relationship can disrupt the normalcy in your life and worse, it could even affect the people around you. You need to take some serious actions and realize that life can sometimes be really nasty and that you just have to be strong enough to face the balls thrown at you.